How to help children?

One of the things I am afraid of is that my children will have to deal with the same addictions I'm dealing with. We don't have kids yet, by the way, so I don't claim to know anything for sure on the matter - which honestly is always the case. :) This is just me thinking about the future. It's kind of a depressing thing to think about - the last thing I want in the world is for my child to have to go through what my wife and I have been through/are going through. However, I feel it's really important to think through clearly so standards can be set early and nothing falls through the cracks that could've been done.

When I think about helping my kids dealing with this, I feel both afraid and glad. I feel afraid because I feel that there are genetic and behavioral component to addiction, and my children will have those. I also feel afraid because of the direction society is headed. It is no longer a question or when kids will be exposed to it, but how early and how often. Kids are  being exposed to this stuff earlier and more frequently than ever before. It's impossible to avoid. I can't imagine how it will all be when my boys are having to make their own choices on the matter.

I feel glad, however, because my wife and I have been through such an ordeal with this issue and have learned much in the process - things that will allow us to create the best environment we can where our children can learn to make correct decisions. We can at least set them up for success - and who knows? Maybe that will be enough to help them not get lost in it.

So the question becomes, what can we do? Here is a list of things that initially come to mind:

• make and stick to good media rules (ie amount of media, where media is located, content of tv/movies/games allowed)
• teach/talk to them early and often - kids are being exposed earlier and earlier. I feel like I will need to be quite open and direct with my kids earlier than later
• limits on electronic devices (ie location of computer, filters, accountability, how much access they have, etc)
• have concrete ways to follow up - probably by asking them direct questions and via accountability software
• set a good example - by being accountable and active in my own recovery for my life, I can stay strong and be prepared for situations that could possibly arise

Some concerns I have at the same time:

• If I talk to them early - am I just planting the seed of curiosity? just giving them ideas? 
• I don't think so. Curiosity and ideas are coming from all around them. I'd rather be the one to discuss it with them in a healthy manner than the way that society would have them view things. 
• Do I tell them that I struggle with it?
• Probably a yes and and a no, depending on the situation. Haven't thought about it enough to know though. 
• Careful not to try to control too much
• As a parent trying to prevent this, I could see how control would be an issue. But when it gets down to it, if your kid is set to find pornography or have other issues, they will find a way regardless. The best things we can do is create a righteous environment full of support, love them, teach them and protect them best we can, and help them develop their own relationships with God. If my kids were to have a run in with this stuff, and statistically they all will, I want them to be comfortable telling me instead of just trying to deal with it in isolation. 

Anyway, those are just some random thoughts I had and wanted to write about. Most of this was from almost a week ago, but I've been kind of busy with various things and never got around to finishing it. Better late then never, right?

So I guess that's it. If anyone has ideas or experience on the matter it would be greatly appreciated.